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Searching for Christmas. Day 11.

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Yesterday, I came home after a very long day and sat down at my computer. I wrote a blog for all of you that was very important to me. It took me a couple of hours and I was just about to publish it when my computer glitched. Suddenly, all of my words were gone. I looked for them. I did. I asked my husband, brilliant computer engineer that he is, for help. No luck. It was just gone. I spent the next couple of hours trying to recreate it. That was a big mistake. Finally, in frustration, I closed my computer and went to bed. This morning I got up and completely erased my attempts to recreate what I had written. It wasn’t right and never will be. I might try again in a few weeks when I can’t remember just enough of what I’d written to frustrate me. And maybe i won’t. So, if you’ve been following this Advent blog, I hope you will forgive me for the lateness of this post and that all you get today is a picture of my work space last night. I will go about my day realizing, yet again, how much you miss the words you’ve written when they are lost to you. 

Searching for Christmas. Day 10.

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In the parking lot was an older gentleman with three bouquets of flowers. He was waiting patiently for a woman dressed in fancy Christmas attire except for a pair of light blue house shoes. We followed them in and joined the rest of the crowd waiting for the doors to open. We were a mixed bag of church clothes and ugly sweaters. Slacks and jeans. People were greeting each other and talking about how hard the cast had worked to get ready. Lots of smiles and hugs. I took my grandson over to the drink cart and the lady made him a coke and gave it to him wrapped in a thick white napkin. He thanked her in his serious, I wanna get this right, voice. Finally, a lady wearing a Christmas headband found our name on the list and led us up two stairs and down a long ramp to our seats. My grandson was handsome in his Christmas sweater and my husband was unusually festive in his Santa hat. He grows his beard out every year at this time so he fits the part. I tried to take a picture, but silliness ensued and I ended up with two pictures of my grandson’s tonsils. We sat in the crowd of people waiting for the production to start. I eavesdropped on several conversations around me and made polite conversation with the older woman next to me. She instantly wanted to know if I was a local. Where I lived. Who I belonged to. I explained that we were visitors. This immediately made me more interesting and slightly less so. We finished up our polite chatter and she turned back to all of the familiar faces surrounding her. These were people that knew each other. The children in the cast were discussed and catalogued by who their parents were and when those parents graduated. I smiled as I listened to them all talk. I belonged to a little town just like this. I just wasn’t there. No matter. I was ready for the next two hours of speeches from the director and presents given to community sponsors. I was ready for the six little girls dressed in glitter that danced to Run Rudolph Run. I was ready for the corny jokes and the bad acting. I was ready for the look of sweet awe when the “real” Santa Claus snuck into the audience as beautiful music played and handed out old fashioned peppermints. Right from his velvet gloves into my grandson’s cupped hands. I was ready to sing along with the audience and to laugh hysterically when one of the actors had wrapping paper stuck on his shoe when he came on stage. Heck, I was even ready to wait an extra long time for the next act to start when we heard a crash behind the curtain and it was obvious something had tipped over or malfunctioned. And, I was so ready to hold my grandson’s hand as we walked back to our car. He was singing Jingle Bells and when I asked him what his favorite part was he answered, “My favorite was all of it.” Me too kiddo. Me too. If you see a sign advertising a local production this season go see it. If there’s a line to donate a little extra to the local theatre program do that too. Buy their cookies and programs and whatever else they’re selling. Because what they are really selling is community. Connection. Christmas spirit. All the lovely things about small towns this time of year.

Searching for Christmas. Day 8

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For me, it’s the little hand in his front pocket. It’s such a grown up stance. One part who he’ll be and one part who he is. I could have stayed in those toy aisles all day with him. We looked at every single toy. I took pictures for him of the things he really wanted and sent his parents pictures of the aisle numbers where the most important things were. I stopped all my grown up stuff and just entered into his little world for an hour or so. I let him push every button and pull every lever. I never once said, “We look with our eyes not with our hands.” I just put my grown up self on the shelf and just hung out with him. I don’t remember if I ever did that with my own kids. I think I was always in a hurry. I’m sure I was. There was always an agenda as a parent, but as a grandparent things are a little different. The only agenda is to be there. To show up. To soak it in. My husband and I joke sometimes about moving to Florida. We’re pretty sure there’s a little pink bungalow there with our name on it. White fence out front and a little Pomeranian peeking through the front curtains. Maybe two bicycles under the car port. The one with a basket is mine. We could go down to the beach with our neighbors everyday to watch the sunset and eat fried shrimp for dinner at four in the afternoon. But, we’d miss it all. Days like this day. He held my hand through most of the store and was enamored with the Legos. He knew just what he wanted to get his daddy for Christmas. And his little brother. He’s kind of a big deal. Don’t get me wrong, the next time I am making his sandwich wrong or his little brother is screaming as I’m trying to zip him into his swaddle I’m sure a beach scene will flash in front of my eyes. Maybe even a couple of umbrella drinks. But ask me if I would want to miss seeing his face when his family opens the presents he picked himself and the answer is absolutely not. Actually, I’m hoping if he gets this one particular toy we saw he’ll let me play too. Turns out you get to be a kid again when someone calls you Grandma. Especially at Christmas. Thanks buddy.

Searching for Christmas. Day 7

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Have you seen them? I know you have. The big cardboard boxes wrapped in Christmas paper taking up room in local businesses. Sometimes, because you’re curious, you stop and peek in. You find different things in the bottom. Sometimes it’s coats and packages of socks and maybe a couple of little kid shirts. The kind that come three to a package with the price stuck on with that extra sticky stuff that’s almost impossible to get off. Sometimes it’s toys. The little telephone on a string seems to be popular. Nerf footballs. Weird monster looking creatures that little boys love. Whatever it is it’s on its’ way to a kid somewhere. A kid who will wake up Christmas morning to a surprise. A present. A part to play in the excitement of the morning. God bless the folks who take the time to wrap those boxes. To put them out. To direct people to them when they wander in. The ones who gather up whatever is in the bottom of the box every evening and add it to a pile in the back. Waiting until the very last moment to drop it off somewhere or call to have it picked up. Hoping that the pile grows and that their red wrapped box makes a huge difference. And God bless the people who come to get the piles. Who take them back to a church or a conference room somewhere and separate them and log them and wrap them. They put shiny tags on them and group them for families or schools or neighborhoods. They load them up again and take them where they are welcomed by another crew that have arranged a little get together. There will be paper tablecloths with gold bells and greenery on them. There will be red paper plates and hot chocolate and cookies decorated like snowflakes. The lights will be too bright and everyone will feel a little awkward but there will be a warmth in the air. A gentleness and lots of quick smiles and parents with their hands on their kid’s shoulders or the back of their necks. Moms will be holding several jackets and Dads will be holding the littlest of their families. Candy canes will appear and some of those cheaply made Santa hats. Kids will get a little braver and some will start making furtive trips by the tree to see if there is a present there for them. They will run back to their parents grinning and hide again behind their legs. Soon Bob from accounting or Charles that teaches adult Sunday School will show up dressed as Santa. He will settle himself into an office chair or a couch pulled in from another room and the kids will assemble into a line before anyone even knows it’s happening. That one lady who always volunteers for these things will appear with a clipboard and starting checking off names from a list. Each child will leave with a gift wrapped and tagged with their name. They will take it back to the parents with a hopeful grin. “Can I open it now?” their eyes will ask. Sometimes the answer is, “Yes.” Sometimes the answer is, “Save it for Christmas.” Gradually the parents will leave with their tired kids and their arms full of gifts. Volunteers will begin to stack chairs and throw away empty cups and pick up discarded Santa hats. Eventually somebody will unplug the Christmas tree and shut off the overhead lights. It’s all as simple and as beautiful as that. It happens every Christmas and it always starts with someone wrapping a giant box in pretty paper. With someone being willing to be part of the chain of good deeds that will lead to four year old Christoper in his footy pajamas having a toy on the most important kid day of the whole year.

Searching for Christmas. Day 5.

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I heard a guy on tv say Americans are running out of shared experiences. We watch different news channels. We are shopping from our homes instead of in stores. Someone is trying to make concerts virtual with avatar artists. Every kid isn’t showing up for the first day of kindergarten down at your local school. The line of little kids with backpacks bigger than they are is a bit shorter these days. If you focus on all of that and the fact that Americans are even choosing sides over where we eat our chicken and drink our coffee it doesn’t take long to get depressed. Travel further down that road to some of the other things we don’t agree on and things can turn really, really dark. Into that darkness, Christmas comes to save the day. In so many, many ways. If you are a believer, Christmas is the promise that our Savior has already saved the day. We’re just waiting for the final score to hit the board. For it to be official that good wins. Hold tight to that. It’s gonna happen. Until then, hold onto Christmas. Christmas is our sign post to a future we all wish for. And it’s not going anywhere. I say this because, as someone who travels extensively, I am here to tell you Christmas is everywhere. I mean everywhere. I pass hay bales painted to look like Santa. Small towns drum up volunteers to go down and put lights on the courthouse and to find folks to decorate their trucks for the parade. Small businesses that have been struggling lately still pay someone to come and paint snowflakes and holly and snowmen on their shop windows. Teachers at the local school pull money out of their own budgets to make sure their students have a little gift to take home and open. A bottle of bubbles or a pair of fuzzy socks. A picture of them wearing a Santa hat and framed out in puzzle pieces to hang on the fridge at home. Someone from the city will go and dress whatever the big statue is in your town in a Santa costume just to make you smile. I’ve seen a giant man, a road runner and a panther all dressed as Saint Nick. Every one of them elicited a grin from me. And I was happy to give it. Grab a hot chocolate and drive around your neighborhood. A lot of people are stringing up lights to participate in the merriness this time of year. Red lights, blue lights, icicle lights. Giant pink pigs and nutcrackers and even an alien with a wreath around its’ neck. I’ve seen them all. There’s absolutely nothing more beautiful than driving through a dark night and suddenly seeing a brightly lit house in the middle of nowhere. You take your foot off the gas and slow down to look. If you’re me, you put your hand against the cold glass in a little salute to the time and energy it took to create that scene. You feel connected to the family who did it. Like maybe if you knocked on their door they might invite you in to watch A Christmas Story. Give you a fuzzy blanket to cover up with and start a fire. Imagine how many homes will do just that this holiday season and all of a sudden America will start to feel like a really big family again. Yes, we have those few relatives that have to start some drama every Christmas, but we don’t let them spoil the whole day. After all, a lot of us have showed up just to enjoy each other. To eat Christmas cookies and do kind things and hand out shiny packages to people we love. There’s more of us than there are of them. Look around and you’ll see I’m right. There are Christmas kindnesses everywhere and we can all participate as much as we want to. It’s a shared experience that we are all invited to. I hope the guy from the tv gets out and realizes that too. I’d like to hear more about the folks shoveling a neighbor’s driveway and volunteering to serve Christmas dinner at the local shelter and less about those seeking to divide us. Every wreath and blow up in a front yard is someone saying I’d like to be a part of this good thing that is happening. This time of year when people soften and life is warmer. This belief that, in the end, good will win. Yes please. You can count on me America. Put me down for a dozen cookies and a giant blow up Santa flying an airplane. Some kid will love that. And thank you to everyone helping decorate our country for our big family celebration. I see you.

Searching for Christmas. Day 4

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Stop and think for a minute about the noise of Christmas morning. Packages being ripped open. Squeals of excitement over what’s inside. Dad’s pleas to put all the paper and ribbons right into the trash. Mom’s pleas for another cup of coffee. The oven timer announcing fresh cinnamon rolls. Various noises from new toys. Dings, and clangs and clatter. It would be hard to describe a scene more representative of Christmas and what it means to everyone. I’m looking forward to just such a moment this year. Two grandsons. Hopefully a sister. My sweet husband. God willing it will happen. But, I’ve been on this earth long enough to have learned it’s the quiet moments that come before that noisy, joy filled one that really give Christmas its’ weight and depth. Its’ true sweetness. Ever been to a Christmas Eve service at church when the whole congregation falls silent while the candles are lit? One person sharing the dancing flame to the next and the only sounds are jacket sleeves brushing together and an escaped cough in the back. Ever gotten up early and walked outside in the snow? Your breath goes ahead of you and your shoes make that delicious slushy, crunching sound that means you beat the crowd. Your footprints are first. Ever been the first one to your dad’s table to have coffee with him? It’s the first day of vacation and you have no where to be. You and your dad drink coffee and talk just enough to not be awkward. He gets up and brings a paper towel folded into a square for your cup. You place it there and steady it with your hands so it doesn’t lurch. You want him to think his folded square is perfect. Ever been asked to watch your baby grandson on a quiet December morning? You drag his bassinet into the family room and rock him to sleep in front of the Christmas tree. It is so quiet and all you hear is his steady little breathing. Later, when he wakes up, you can see the tree lights reflecting in his eyes and when he smiles at you it’s Christmas. Weeks until the official day. The cinnamon rolls, package opening day but still Christmas. I wonder what quiet moment happened in all of your lives today that gave you that Christmas feeling? I wish I knew them all and I hope none of us miss them when they come. It’s a noisy world. Dings and clangs and clatter everywhere.

Searching for Christmas. Day 3.

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I spent the day with my grandsons and their mom. We were taking the kids to get Christmas pictures made. It was a much bigger deal to me than it was to my daughter. Her generation doesn’t understand the need for a studio picture with a beautiful back drop. For clean faces and perfectly combed hair. For a framed photograph that says these people matter. “Mom,” she said in that particular voice daughters use when explaining things to their mother. “I do not understand why we need professional pictures of these boys. They are the most photographed kids in the history of time.” She was right and her comment made me laugh. I seriously take more pictures than any human should. If you are facebook friends with me you already know this. I’m sorry. I really am. But I love the bits and pieces of life. The way my littlest grandson grins up at his grandpa. The way the light catches my daughter’s face as it climbs through her kitchen window. When she’s there at her sink doing dishes I see me. I see my mom. I see her. I don’t want to miss that. So, I photograph it. This gets me in more trouble than paying for professional photographs. “Mom!,” she says exasperated. “If you post that anywhere I’ll kill you.” I laugh, but I promise her it’s only for me. I think whatever that part of me is is also the part of me that makes me sit down and write. I so want to capture all of the tiny things that make life beautiful. Magic. Worth all of the pain that comes hand in hand with the wonder. Sometimes words work and sometimes I need a picture. For instance, if I could have, I would have photographed myself making a series of totally ridiculous faces at my grandsons today trying to get them to smile for their pictures. Can you just imagine what that must have looked like? A slightly old grandma bugging out her eyes and sticking out her tongue while she hopped from foot to foot. What a picture that would have been. I can guarantee my husband would pay big money for that shot. Honestly though, I do wish you would have been in that studio to see the sweet smiles. The hair combed into a perfect point and protected by little hands all the way there in the car. The careful way the big one balanced the baby on his lap. The serious consideration of which lollipop to choose when it was over. Oh, and their mother making her own faces and jumping up and down right beside me trying to help get the perfect picture. That might have been the best part of the whole day. Looking over at her and grinning because we were in it together. Remembering doing the same thing with my mom. Feeling again the blending of time. It was some serious Christmas magic y’all. I hope, if you’re getting family pictures made this season, you feel it too. If you can, grab your phone and photograph what’s going on behind the scenes. I would love to see it. I promise I won’t tell your daughter you showed me. If you don’t tell mine.

Searching for Christmas. Day 1.

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I wish you could have been there. Maybe you were. The store was pretty crowded. I might have missed you in the sea of flannel and Uggs. Snowman shirts and red ball caps. Heavy purses and high ponytails. I stood at the back of that crowd and wondered how long it would take me to make it to the front. I wondered but without any desire to leave. No way was I leaving without my ten dollar, three wick candles.

Honestly, I hadn’t even known I needed candles, but the nice elf lady in front of the store had handed me a bag and ushered me through the double doors. She had just assumed her store was my destination. Where else would I be going on ten dollar candle day? I didn’t have the heart to tell her it was to buy stadium chairs at a store further down from hers. That I had gotten up that morning, drank coffee, picked out socks and fueled up my car without even knowing it was the one day a year when three wick candles were only ten bucks.

Apparently the other three hundred women and two men in the store did know that. They had come with lists and ideas and deep pockets. Some people even went back to the elf lady for more bags. I was clearly out of my league. I almost ditched my bag on the end cap and left. But then I started to listen to the conversations around me. I always do this. Don’t say things in public you don’t want a writer to use. I’m just saying. What I heard was Christmas. People thinking about other people. Getting excited about making them happy.

“Dude, I’m going to buy this for Britt. She loves this kind of candy.”

“I’m getting this one for my mom. Her bedroom always smells like this.”

“This one just smells like Amanda to me.”

So, I joined in. I was by myself, but I had a very pleasing conversation in my head as I thought about the people I was buying candles for.

“Oh, I’m going to get this one for Renae. It smells so fresh and the colors will look great in her new kitchen. And I’m going to get this one for Summer so when she comes in after school she can make her kitchen smell like Christmas while she picks up. This one would be perfect for my sister, but I don’t know how I would ship it. Besides she might like to pick her own. Oh, mom would have loved this one.”

Y’all, before I knew it, I was grinning form ear to ear and happily humming a Christmas song. I made my way through the line, had a pleasant conversation with the girl running the cash register and exclaimed appropriately when she informed me how much money I had saved on candles I had had no intention of buying. I left with a shiny bag and a row of candles nestled in red tissue paper and chosen carefully for all my favorite people.

On the way out, I high-fived the elf lady and it caught the attention of an older woman trying to make a wide circle around the entrance to the store. She looked a little startled and did some kind of evasive move to try and avoid us but my pointy-eared friend was too fast. She shoved a bag in her hands and proclaimed it was ten dollar, three wick candle day. The older lady looked at me for an explanation, but I just winked at her and told her to go inside and listen for Christmas. The last I saw her the double doors were closing behind her and a worker was handing her a candle to smell.

Resistance is futile lady. Take your place in line.

Next door, they’re selling Rudolph sweatshirts two for thirty bucks. I know a couple of people who would rock those. I bet you do too. What the heck. It’s all for the people we love.

For Christmas.